Frigid! Ice Cold! Ice Queen! Log of Wood! These are the terms used quite often by men to describe women that are sexually unresponsive. The etymology of the word even connotes iciness, frozen [frigidus (Lat.) “cold, chill, cool,” figuratively “indifferent,” also “flat, dull, trivial,“]. The meaning “wanting in sexual heat” is attested from 1650s, originally of males. Go figure!
Frigidity means sexual aversion or inability to respond sexually or orgasm (anorgasmia) in women, according to medicine.net.
For generations women have been labelled and accepted the labels by men due to their seeming lack of sexual responsiveness. The question we ask is…is it aways the woman’s issue? Do we have unrealistic ideas of what appropriate sexual response should be? What is a normal reaction?
In this edition we look at frigidity, sexual dysfunction, body image and body dysmorphia, communication between partners and other related topics.
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- A woman’s clitoris is the anatomical parallel to a man’s penis. As a result, clitoral swelling would be the equivalent of a man’s erection
- The clitoris is actually in the range of 6 or 7 inches
- In the Journal of Urology study, researchers found the following among the group of 80 men: An average penis size of 8.8 cm (3.5 inches) when flaccid. An average penis size of 12.9 cm (5.1 inches) when erect. Yup…women are bigger 😉 [Source: Medical News Today]
- Research by Meredith L. Chivers and J. Michael Bailey indicates that men tend to show category-specific arousal; that is, they are sexually aroused by their preferred gender. However, women show category non-specificity: Their genitals show arousal to both preferred and non-preferred genders. Even though women reported being subjectively aroused to, for example, a man and woman engaging in sexual activity, their genitals also show sexual arousal to two men engaging in sexual activity, two women doing so, and even non-human animals having sex.
- There are four main categories of sexual dysfunctions: desire disorders, arousal disorders, orgasm disorders, and sexual pain disorders.
- One study found that in patients with hypoactive sexual desire disorder (HSDD), 41% of women had at least one other sexual dysfunction and 18% had diagnoses in all 3 categories (that is, in desire, arousal, and orgasm disorders).
- Inhibited sexual desire (ISD) is considered a sexual dysfunction and is characterized as a lack or absence of sexual fantasies and desire for sexual activity, as judged by a clinician.
- Prior to Masters and Johnson’s research, female orgasm was assumed by some to originate primarily from vaginal, rather than clitoral, stimulation. Consequently, feminists have argued that “frigidity” was “defined by men as the failure of women to have vaginal orgasms“.
- Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD), also known as body dysmorphia or dysmorphic syndrome, but originally termed dysmorphophobia, is a mental disorder characterized by an obsessive preoccupation that some aspect of one’s own appearance is severely flawed and warrants exceptional measures to hide or fix it.
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